A Mayflower's Musings

Sunday, June 12, 2011

The rest of the story...




A friend of mine recently went to Hawaii on a dream trip with her husband and I loved how she returned and journaled thoroughly about each day they had together. I say this because she prefaced it by saying to her readers that they may or may not to read every word of her entries, but in the end her blog is for their family memory keeping and she was doing it not for us but for herself.

I feel the same way a lot of the time. Even Mike will say, "Well, I didn't read the WHOLE thing honey, it was really long". So breeze by the pictures or skim the reflections here...but as I've said before, I personally want to remember the details when I am old and gray, so I just have to be wordy sometimes.

The PRE-TRIP STORY

So going way back now....it was May 10th, and the day before we were to head up to the airport for our trip. It was also the day before my 34th birthday. I was doing my best to get a multitude of things ready, all while taking care of two girls who are always at home with me. I find it tricky to keep them active, engaged, happily interacting, and still get a lick done around here. And I have this 10hr a week job from home...so stupidly I had decided to get up around 4:30am every day that week and try to sneak in 9hrs before we left Wednesday night. You get the picture - running myself ragged and pregnant to boot.

Tuesday afternoon I was feeling so guilty about ignoring the girls that when they asked to join the other kids playing out front I couldn't say no. Somehow the other moms in the neighborhood seem to manage to sit out there for 2 hrs most days while the kids play and I do my best to join them often, but once agaicn there's that tension of my to-do list vs. pure kid driven activities. Tricky, yes?

Here's the visual for you...me, holding my favorite jumbo Starbucks coffee mug, filled with my late afternoon caffeine hopes, my laptop, and my camping fold up chair...following after the girls, stepping over bikes and scooters that have overtaken any pathway in my NEVER clean garage. You can guess the outcome. I fell...breaking my favorite mug, drowning my screen with the liquid that held any remaining chance at productivity, and all in front of my girlfriends who sat chatting in the driveway next to mine. I was as embarrassed as I was frustrated and mad at the damage. One of them came to my rescue and helped me clean the mess. I was in tears and gave up on a lot of my pre-trip expectations all in one fell swoop - or fall.

My computer wouldn't work anyways so no more hours were completed, and by then some damage had really been done on my immune system. That night, despite being out on a pre-planned date with Mike for my birthday, I really began to feel sick with a sore throat. I went to bed late after sitting in my rocking chair and texting a few good friends to pray for me as I sobbed feeling sorry for myself. OH, how I know someday this will seem so trivial, but it felt like a wall that I couldn't climb - pregnancy hormones????

My birthday came the next morning and I was in no shape to celebrate - let alone the time to do so. We managed a quick donut run as a family that am, but then the frantic to-do's began. I had to take Daphne, with the little girls in tow to Salem to complete her passport card process for a missions trip she is taking later this month. It's a good 1hr drive each way. Then she went back to school. I promptly drove to urgent care as I was sure I had strep by that point. Let's just say I worked really hard at that visit, trying to keep the girls amused while we waited for doctor and then the culture, etc etc.

By the time we got home I had just hours to finish laundry, pack, write notes about all the care I had arranged for Ruby and Daphne while I was gone, and maybe leave the house somewhat tidy for Mike (more for my peace of mind - he could care less) I think when Pam came to pick Maisie and me up for our BIG trip, I was mostly ready..posty notes everywhere, finishing up all the clean laundry, dishes done, bags packed and organized well for plane activities, airplane rules...

My sweet mom in law really wanted to go out and have a big dinner somewhere and maybe shop for a new outfit for me - as it was my birthday too, but by then it was like 7-7:30 and my body was DONE. We drove thru A&W and headed to the hotel by the airport. We were in bed by 9pm and then up at 4am for an early flight.

Luckily, with all the preparations of the trip behind me and only the FUN ahead of me, I did my best to ignore that I was sick. I popped any vitamin and drug my midwife allowed and I think I was a trooper. I'm so glad it was two adults on one child because although doing Disneyland is high paced - we were in control of our schedule and got to focus on Maisie alone. Here's some of my other favorite memories of our week with my 5 year old Maisie:



When we got there I was a bit hung over from the anti-anxiety pills I took on the plane. My midwife had okayed them and I gladly popped them:) We had one day to lay around and we chose that day to swim and gear up. And it was a hot hot one...I got scorched. Maisie would have swam vs going to Disneyland everyday probably - she loved it!

Our first night we still wanted a "taste" of Disney - so we strolled Downtown Disney and had dinner at the Rainforest Cafe.

Here's her and Grandma in a fun little store and her first giant treat of many.


I won't lie, Maisie had a fine and dandy tantrum our first minutes in Disneyland. We have found out recently that she has a hard time with sensory integration (another story entirely) and so I new Disneyland would be OVER stimulating. But with some time having passed from our trip I have realized that NO trip with kids isn't remiss some bumps, right? It was quickly defused and we were on our way to the carousel and many many joyful moments.


I think Pam and I were brilliant at manuevering the park - we didn't stand in any huge lines w Mais. We did fast passes or one of us stood in a long line while the other took her somewhere else nearby. With one child you can meet most of their whims and fancies and it feels so good.

She's a thrill seeker for sure, but a fine detail lover also. She went on all the roller coasters multiple times, but also loved the princesses, and rides like Small World. And every time we got off a ride she asked to go on it again immediately.

You may think she wore the same dress the whole trip, but she has a couple of them (part of her sensory issues is tactile and major clothes issues) We couldn't get her to do her hair in fun up-do's or wear a princess gown, but I have a feeling those days will come in the future and she will knock all the boys dead with her figure and blue eyes! Right now she demands a patience from me that I don't come by naturally - but once again this trip was a magical gift from her Grandma to me - because I rarely get my babies one on one.

Our hotel was wonderful. It had these huge fish tanks that seemed to soothe her. She loved to check em out everytime we headed out to our shuttle.


Although I DO believe if you can only afford/manage ONE family trip to Disneyland with your trip that 8-12 is the best age...this was her face on all the rides. Magic.

Face painting was so fun and luckily that stuff doesn't bother her...Pam and I had to join in on the fun too.

Maisie liked taking our pictures - Grandma Pam was so patient and all about spoiling us!

We got to the park each day early and went hard till lunch-ish. Then we went back and napped, and returned for my favorite time of day in Disneyland...night!


Our last day at Disneyland we rode behind "Sulley" and savored Main Street one last time on this lazy ride.


We left the park really really tired but with no regrets. We'd done it all and ate it all and filled Maisie with a million fun memories.



It took me at least a week AFTER getting home to feel better and get back on my feet. It's been about a month now and my sore throat and sore feet have long recovered and now I'll just remember some of those special moments with her in Disneyland. I won't even share them in detail... they defy words.

(To a 90 year old Stefanie...or maybe even a 50 year old Stefanie...if you forget those referred to moments...just remember this smile)




4 comments:

Unknown said...

I read every word, and loved it all. I'm working on a similar post myself and on a fun side note, we were totally at Disneyland at the same time! :) I love this story Stef. You are one strong Mama and should be so proud of yourself for taking such wonderful care of your beautiful girls!

charity said...

Awesome. Loved every bit! Take care of yourself, mama :) Love you!

Rachel said...

I have learned to let go of the to do list when sitting on the front porch! I am not crafty like you are, but I have a very clean and organized home, so letting was a challenge. I love my neighbors and friends and we spend a lot of time outside watching the kids. (Sorry you broke your fav mug)
A good friend of mine has a 3 year old with sensory issues, I will email you her blog!
What a great trip and it is so special to go when your girls really could get so much out of it! Sawyer can't wait to go back, and I really think we will take them next year.
I'm a big fan of keeping all those special memories for my family, too. I love that you write so much, because in a year from now, the pictures won't be enough for the whole story! In fact yesterday Scott was reading to me from my blog book about when Reed was an infant...and it's crazy how much of his colic I had blocked out.
Love love love your blog!

Stacy said...

What fabulous memories! We are really needing to plan a family trip...I can only imagine what it'll cost to take our group!

I was curious about the computer work you do. I've been on the lookout for something I can do while still at home. Can you share details?

Hope you're feeling well.
Stacy